(17 People Likes) What would you do if you were at a reunion and someone comes up to you and your wife,tells you about some woman who is tall,blonde,and stacked,then looks at your wife with a sneer and says “too bad you’re with her”?
inking at that early stage,you can say,“Whoa! Hold on! She’s spoken for. I’m so glad to hear you finally got a girlfriend of your own,but. Yes,Helen teaches constitutional law at Columbia. I can’t believe she married little old me.”
Ask Melania. As much as I loathe the Trump,she at least said,“Do you think he married me for my brains???”
So there he is,with some festering miserable problem underneath (maybe Barbie isn’t completely anatomically correct,at least as far as HE’s concerned). And he doesn’t even has his inflatable doll with him? Why? You know,he could have taken pictures of anyone and said she was with him.
The thing that holds marriages together is RESPECT. I know. I’ve researched it at the Yale Medical Library in their infinite resources to current journals.
Someone in this scenario is being completely disrespectful,both to you and your wife. Chances he’ll ever have a solid marriage are somewhere less than 0.
Believe me,the most attractive people in the world lose their charm very quickly when you’ve got nothing to say to them,when you get home from work and they’re still asleep from last night’s hangover,and you’re paying a bundle to maintain the plastic surgery. Gravity is stronger than surgery. The person he might have found to bolster his weak sense of self may not know how to cook,clean house,get along with in laws,think of anyone but herself,and that gets tired real soon.
You can explain to your wife as soon as you escape from him that he’s always been a bit screwy and was in the Special Academy where he got a certificate instead of a diploma. You can tell her how he thought he was so tough he climbed the highest tree in the neighborhood,fell out,and was in a coma for 6 months. Since then,he just says whatever pops into his damaged brain.
Pick up some snacks. Tell her how you wouldn’t trade her for anyone in the world. Dance e
(87 People Likes) How do you find the right girl?
t product to the right market (i.e. put yourself in situations with the types of women you want to date)
Sell the product effectively (i.e. learn how to flirt,converse,and physically escalate interactions with the women you like.
Let’s dive into each of these briefly to give you a better idea of what I mean.
1. Developing the Ultimate “Product”
The first step in finding the right girl is becoming the right man.
Lots of guys try to skip this step by jumping into “game” and “pickup” (the proverbial marketing and sales).
And while this might work for getting a trial run (e.g. having sex or going on a date)… It’s not a viable long term strategy.
If you aren’t the right man,women will sense this after a few dates and they will quickly abandon ship.
You need to develop yourself into a man of substance and character who is capable of keeping your ideal woman BEFORE you set out to try and find her.
To get started,you must first ask yourself,“What kind of woman do I want to be with?”
What sort of character traits do they have? What do they look like? How do they spend their time? What are they like as a person?
Now flip the script and ask yourself,“What kind of man must I become to attract and keep a woman of this caliber”.
Because here’s the thing.
If you want to date an amazing woman,you need to be an amazing man. Period.
You can’t expect to date a beautiful gem of a girl who is always volunteering with underserved children,running a small online business,intelligent,athletic,well read,and kind if you’re overweight,lazy,and mean.
It just won’t happen.
Now,I can’t speak to the exact type of woman that you will want,but here are a few basics that should be applied NO MATTER what type of woman you want to be with:
Take care of your physical health. Lift weights 2–3 times a week,sprint every week,eat a clean diet,and drink lots of water
Have a MISSION and a purpose beyond women. It doesn’t matter if you want to end world hunger,build a 9-figure brand,release a best selling album,or travel to every country in the world,but you MUST have something that sets your soul on fire and motivates you every day. Passion is sexy and a man without a mission will never be able to keep a high caliber woman
Develop an interesting skillset. Learn to dance,box,play the guitar,paint,speak a new language… Whatever. I don’t know a single woman alive who isn’t attracted to a man of many skills and talents
Become a more masterful conversationalist (we’ll dive into that later). Learn how to tell jokes and stories. Understand body language. Learn to improve your communication skills because,at the end of the day,a relationship is ALL about communicating.
Remember,like attracts like. You might be able to b.s. your way into a few one night stands,but women are highly intuitive when it comes to a man’s character and they can quickly smell a fake.
Become the real deal.
Be the man she needs you to be and everything else becomes easy.
2. Market Yourself Effectively
Once you’ve developed yourself into the ideal product a.k.a the ideal man,you must learn to market yourself effectively to the women you desire.
This is comprised of two parts:
Presenting yourself well
Being in the right locations.
The first one is simple.
Take care of your appearance. Dress well. Take care of your body. Get a haircut. Put your best foot forward and ensure that first impressions are always rock solid.
The second part can be a little bit more challenging.
Lots of guys think that bars and clubs are t Real Doll e best places to meet women. They’re not.
You need to figure out where your ideal woman is going to spend her time and go to those places.
If you want a smart,nerdy,and cute girl… A bookstore or coffee shop is where you’ll want to start going. (or even comicon haha)
If you want a musician or an artist,then go to open mic nights or museums.
Join local meetups your ideal girlfriend would go to.
Build a social circle filled with like-minded people.
Go where the type of woman you want to be with will go.
In the same way that there are AMAZING products out there that no one has ever heard of,I know dozens of AMAZING men who would make the perfect boyfriend or husband but are still single because they never put themselves in the right locations to meet the women that they want.
If you’re single and have already done all of the internal work necessary to attract the right woman (i.e. you’ve become the right man) then I’d recommend that you spend less than 4 hours a day at home (when you’re not sleeping).
Hang out at coffee shops,go to meetups,go to museums,just go and live life and get out of the four walls you call home.
Because the woman you want isn’t waiting for you in your bedroom.
She’s out there in the real world.
3. Selling the Crap Out of Yourself for Love and Profit
Developing yourself and putting yourself in the right environments won’t do a damn thing unless you are able to effectively “sell” yourself.
What I mean when I say this is that you must learn how to communicate more effectively.
You can be the most amazing man in the world,but if you suck at conversations and don’t know how to effectively talk to women so that they REALIZE how amazing you are then you’ll be screwed.
Think about all of the amazing products out there that people know about but don’t buy.
I guarantee you there are at least 20–30 amazing purchases you could make right now that would dramatically improve your life,but you won’t do it because they company doesn’t know how to sell their product effectively.
They don’t know how to convey the right message to convince you that you should make a purchase.
It’s the same thing with dating.
Even if you’re the most amazing man in the world and you’re in the right locations,if you can’t sell yourself by being funny,having great conversations,and conveying status without acting needy,you’re not going to date the women you want.
So learn to sell yourself.
Read books like:
How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie
How to Talk to Anyone by Leil Lowndes
The Anti Pickup Line by Charlie Houpert
The Dating Playbook for Men (shameless self plug)
People Skills by Robert Boulton
Watch as many stand up comedies as you can and develop your sense of humor. Watch TEDx talks about becoming a better story teller.
Learn how to sell yourself through conversation and you will eventually find the right girl.
I hope th
(23 People Likes) What should I do if my boyfriend says he needs a 2.5k sex doll (that he can sneak into restaurant bathrooms since I won’t,his words) to “be happy?”
saying no because you would feel uncomfortable with bathroom fun as it isn’t your kink is ok. If needs needs to come up with another solution for his happiness that is also ok.
As for the sex doll,I’d be looking at the situation in terms of can this expen john love doll e be afforded and how does this work with the household budget? In my case my partner and I pool or money then pay ourselves an allowance for fun money. Bills and household expenses come out of the pool. Individual fun things,like a sex doll,comes out of our fun money. This would mean saving up the money.
How you both structure your expenses might be different.
Personally my partner and I don’t have an issue with each other satisfying ourselves or our kinks so long as we aren’t introducing more people into the relationship (aka cheating). I wouldn’t have a problem with the doll.
But I’m not you and your might not like this. That is perfectly fine. What you would now need to consider is whether you want to date a guy who wants to buy a sex doll and have public relations with it. If not then the two of you are fundamentally incompatible. This unfortunately might mean breaking up and you in future dating people who have no interest in restroom sex or sex dolls,and as for your boyfriend I’d advise him to date people with a similar kink.
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